Sexuality and Gender :: LGBT Information

Information for the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans Community

You may have arrived here an out and proud gay man, lesbian, bisexual, transexual or transvestite. You may want to 'come out' or you may be unable to come to terms with your developing sexuality and sexual feelings.

However you feel about your sexuality, this page hopes to cover some of the most important issues for the LGBT community as a whole.

SAFESPACE

SAFESPACE is a support and information service for gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans people and those who just ain't sure! Both staff and students from Brighton and Sussex Universities can access this service. It is a confidential advice service. All you need to do is contact us to make a one-to-one appointment which will take place at our drop-in at the University of Sussex, 1st Floor, Falmer House. Here you'll receive impartial and confidential advice and support, up to date copies of LGBT publications and a large range of free and low cost condoms and lubricant. SAFESPACE gives you the chance to have a chat, about anything you like, in confidence.

We can also arrange one-to-one appointments for students at the University of Brighton.

You can find out further information and/or make an appointment via email.

Coming Out

'Coming out' literally means deciding to actively identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or trans and it can often be one of the most life changing experiences you ever have. It can seem a daunting prospect as it not only means seeking the understanding and respect of others, but also accepting yourself and feeling at ease with your own sexuality.

For many people, starting uni can be the perfect time to come out. Since the first few weeks of university can be central to your future time as a student, you may not want to hide such an important aspect of your life from friends - old and new.

There are no easy answers and no set rules about revealing your sexuality to people. Who you tell, how you tell them and when are all things you will have to judge for yourself; the most important thing is that you feel comfortable.

That said there are a few things that you might like to think about before you tell people. Making sure that the first person you tell is someone you can trust and who you feel will be sympathetic is important as that person could prove vital in supporting you through the process of coming out to other people. You may also need to be prepared to answer some awkward (and possibly stupid) questions; never apologise for who you are, but expect to face some confusion. Finally, you might find that joining an LGBT group at uni or in Brighton (see local services) will help in making new friends and getting the right support.

There will be times when you feel disheartened - coming out can sometimes feel like one of the toughest challenges you've ever faced. Having said that, your true friends will always accept you for the person you are, regardless of your sexual preferences.